Becoming an Adoptive Family

Becoming an adoptive family is a process designed to educate and empower families to partner with COBYS to provide the best care possible for children in foster care.

Resource parents must meet these criteria to be eligible to serve:

  • Be at least 21 years of age
  • If two people are presenting as parental figures in the home, they must be heterosexual and married to each other for at least two years and complete a marital inventory
  • If an applicant is divorced, widowed, or legally separated, a minimum of two years must have passed prior to applying to be a resource family
  • Able to provide transportation for foster children to appointments and visits
  • Practice positive parenting skills and pledge not to use corporal punishment
  • Able to meet the physical, emotional, cultural, and spiritual needs of foster children
  • Willing to establish positive relationships with birth parents
  • Willing to communicate openly with COBYS staff on all matters impacting a foster child’s well-being
  • Live within one hour driving distance to COBYS’ main office in central Lancaster County

The process of becoming a resource family with COBYS involves several steps:

  • Attend an Orientation Session for potential resource families
  • Submit an application including personal references and financial information
  • Complete an intensive Pre-Service Training Class
  • Have all household members complete a medical appraisal
  • Obtain criminal background checks (including State Police, ChildLine, and FBI clearances), references, and other documents to ensure the safety of children in the home
  • Complete family history paperwork, interviews, and follow through on any recommendations
  • Pass a home safety inspection
  • Specify preferences for age, gender, race, and behavioral, emotional, and/or medical needs of children they are able to care for

What is an Orientation?
Orientation is a two-hour introduction that to the foster care system and the children and families involved with it. Detailed information about the roles, responsibilities, and expectations for resource families is included. As this session is designed to help families decide if the ministry of foster care or adoption is a good fit for their family, married couples should attend together. Due to the sensitive nature of some content, children are not permitted to attend and child care is not provided. During Orientation, COBYS provides attendees with the application form for those wanting to pursue becoming a resource family.

COBYS hosts Orientations from 6:00 to 8:00 p.m. on the first and third Tuesdays of each month at the COBYS main office north of Lancaster.

What is Pre-Service Training?
Pre-Service Training is the 27-hour training process for families to be able to be approved as a resource family. Through classroom instruction, activities, and interviews with COBYS resource families this Training addresses the following topics:

  • Laws, regulations, and procedures of foster care and adoption
  • Expectations and motivations of resource families
  • Abuse and neglect
  • Grief and loss
  • Childhood development
  • Discipline
  • Diversity
  • Birth families
  • Trauma and attachment
  • Impact of foster care and adoption on the resource family
  • CPR/First Aid

Upon COBYS’s receipt of a Resource Parent Application, families are eligible to attend our Pre-Service Training class, which is offered at our Main Office six times per year in daytime and evening formats. Daytime trainings consist of three full days and one optional evening and are held in March, June, and November. Evening trainings consist of nine consecutive Thursdays and begin the first week of January, April, and September.

We felt that God was calling us to adopt through foster care. Our greatest joy was being able to adopt one of the boys we fostered! – COBYS Resource Parents